A man will climb a mountain.
Walk on the moon.
He will fly around the world.
Race round a track.
He will lift the heaviest weights.
Wrestle against an enemy.
A man will jump out of a plane.
Off of a cliff.
He will surf the highest wave.
Dive the deepest sea.
A man will control his business.
Manage his staff.
He will command respect.
Be admired by many.
A man will be powerful.
Brave and strong.
This same man quivers when he is faced with a woman’s tears.
Suddenly he is stammering and stuttering.
Shaking and shuddering.
Wishing he was on top of that mountain
Falling out of that plane
Swimming with the sharks
Anywhere but right there with this sobbing female.
What is it about a crying woman that frightens a man so?
Is it that he feels out of control?
Or helpless and frustrated?
Is it that he feels he is somehow to blame?
Or he fears his own weakness will surface
His hurts and heartaches
Or does he feel guilt and regret?
A crying woman does not need to be saved.
Protected or rescued
She doesn’t need logic,
Lectures or disregard.
All she needs is to be held
To be loved
To know that her man has shoulders big enough to take all her tears.
A woman cannot always explain why she is crying
Or what she feels
When pushed for a reason she may get defensive
She may attack or withdraw
She may accuse or blame
She may hurt both you and herself.
Accept that she doesn’t want to talk about it yet
That she needs your love
Your whispers of endearment.
It’s so sad that men are brought up not to cry
“The whole cowboys don’t cry” philosophy
Why then were they given tear ducts?
If they let go and cried,
Their stress levels would drop,
Their anger would dissipate
Their outlook on life would brighten
Carrying pain is never healthy.
So all you men out there
Don’t run away from the tears,
Embrace the woman shedding them
Then your relationships will strengthen
Your life will be fuller